Those Dreaded Valentine’s Day Words: “I love you but I’m not IN LOVE with you.” By Fort Fertel, founder of Marriage Fitness Did your spouse or significant other ever tell you, “I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you?” What does that statement mean? A person who says, “I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you,” is making a distinction between 2 different feelings. But NEITHER of those feelings are love! When a person says, “I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you,” they’re actually saying that I CARE about you but I’m not EXCITED about you. CARING about someone is a good thing.…