You would think after dealing with my brothers home being broken into and him not wanting to file a police report that it would be over with but it isn’t. There is another question hanging over everything that happened with my brother’s house in Oklahoma.

And I don’t even know if we’re ever going to get an answer. What is he going to do with the house? That’s the $35,000 question. Literally. He asked me to have my nephew David M. put it up for sale but I’m not sure he has.

Then there is how much he wants for the house. He has said $35,000 but the house sits on 4 lots and one of them is a corner lot. The house is in bad shape so it might not bring much but the land should.

But then Gerald says $35,000 is the number we’re talking about when we start looking at what the house might be worth, what it might need, and what decisions have to be made next.

This is just a number Gerald pulled out of his head. When I googled the property it show upwards of $100,000 to right around $300,00. For my dad’s home which didn’t have any of the things my brother has we got $65,000.

My question is why settle for $35,000? Yesterday, I asked my sister about it. My nephew had actually put the house up before but back then my brother had it taken off the market, so I thought maybe she would know what was happening.

She said she didn’t know. My brother isn’t saying much about it either. And honestly? It really isn’t my business. Except it kind of is. Because my brother lives with me. So when you’re sharing a home and trying to figure out what comes next, you naturally want to know what the plan is.

Is he going to sell it? Is he going to fix it? Is he going to leave it as it is? Is he going to try to get something for the property? Is someone going to buy it as-is? I don’t know. And that’s the frustrating part.

There are so many unanswered questions surrounding that house already. What was stolen? What was in the safe? What belonged to Dad? What belonged to Mom? What belonged to my brother?

More than anything though I want to know hat belonged to my daughter? What pictures are still there? What pictures are gone? And now there’s another question: Which I wasn’t ready for.

What’s going to happen to the house itself? Four City lots is a good size property. The house is part of our family’s story. But it’s also a house that has been through a lot and needs work.

And after everything that has happened, I understand why figuring out what to do with it isn’t necessarily simple. Sometimes a house is an investment. Sometimes it’s a burden. Sometimes it’s a memory. Sometimes it’s all three at the same time.

And maybe that’s why nobody has an easy answer right now. I’m curious about what happens next, but I’m also trying to remind myself that this isn’t my decision to make. It’s my brother’s. I’ll support him whatever he decides.

But because he lives with me, I’m probably going to keep asking questions. Not because I want to tell him what to do. Not because I think it’s my business to decide what happens to his property.

But because when someone you love is going through something this complicated, you naturally want to know where the road is going. So for now, the $35,000 question remains unanswered.

What is my brother going to do with the house? Maybe we’ll know soon. Maybe we won’t. And maybe, just like so many of the other questions surrounding this situation, this is simply something we’re going to have to wait and see. **Sometimes the hardest part isn’t making a decision. It’s waiting for someone you love to decide what comes next.**

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Grateful, Thankful, Blessed.

Thank you,

Glenda, Charlie and David Cates