Real-Life Lessons About Growing Up, Taking Responsibility, and Finding Your Own Way
I don’t know about in your home but in mine more times than not life doesn’t always go the way we plan. Sometimes we think we know exactly what comes next. We have a job, a paycheck, a routine, and maybe even a little money left over for the things we enjoy. Then something happens. Suddenly, the plans we made don’t look quite the same. And that’s when we have a choice.
Do we sit around waiting for somebody else to fix everything? Or do we start figuring out what we’re going to do next? I’m old school, and I make no apologies for that. I believe in getting up, going to work, paying your bills, keeping your word, and taking responsibility for yourself.
But I also understand that growing up isn’t always easy. Young adults are going to make mistakes. They’re going to make decisions we don’t agree with. And sometimes they’re going to learn lessons the hard way. As parents, that’s not always easy to watch which is were my family is with Charlie and its isn’t fun..
One thing I wish more teenagers and young adults understood is that having a Plan B doesn’t mean you’ve failed at Plan A. It means you’re thinking ahead. Maybe you want to work for a company. Maybe you want to go to college. Maybe you’re interested in learning a trade or starting your own business.
Whatever your dream looks like, it’s worth asking yourself: What will I do if things don’t work out the way I expected? That doesn’t mean you should spend your life worrying about everything that could go wrong. It means you should be prepared to make another decision when something changes.
One of the biggest lessons young adults need to learn is how to ask questions. If you don’t understand something, ask. If someone gives you paperwork, read it. If you’re told something important, write it down. If you’re unsure about a decision, find someone knowledgeable who can help you understand your options. And don’t be afraid to make a phone call.
I know young people today communicate differently than we did growing up. Text messages and social media are part of everyday life. But there are still times when you need to pick up the phone, ask a question, and have a conversation. Learning to advocate for yourself is part of becoming an adult.
Here’s something else I’ve learned over the years. Bills don’t disappear just because life gets complicated. If you have a car payment, insurance, a phone bill, or other responsibilities, those things still need attention. That’s why I believe young adults should learn to budget before they’re completely on their own.
They should know how much money you’re bringing in and know what you’re spending. Learn the difference between something you need and something you want. And whenever possible, put a little money aside. Even a small emergency fund can make a difference when something unexpected happens.
This is where our Teen Entrepreneur series comes in. Not every young person is going to start a business, and that’s perfectly fine. But I do believe every teenager should understand that there are different ways to earn money and build skills and yes, they can work from home and start the own company..
Maybe you enjoy baking, making crafts, mowing lawns, washing cars, pet sitting, or helping people with technology. Maybe you’re creative and want to learn about blogging, photography, or selling handmade products. You don’t have to start with a huge business.
You can start by learning what people need, what you’re good at, and how to provide a service responsibly. And even if your first idea doesn’t work, you’ll have learned something about planning, communication, customer service, and managing money. Those lessons can help you wherever life takes you.
The hardest part for parents is letting children make mistakes and not try and fix things on your own. . As mothers, we want to help our children. We want to protect them from mistakes, disappointment, and struggles. Sometimes we want to pick up the phone, solve the problem, and make everything better. But there comes a time when we have to recognize that our children are becoming adults.
We can offer advice and we can encourage them. We can share what we’ve learned and we can be there when they need someone to talk to. But we cannot live their lives for them. And sometimes loving our children means allowing them to figure things out, even when we’d do things differently. That doesn’t mean we stop caring. It means we’re learning a different way to be parents.
I don’t believe one mistake should define a young person’s future and I don’t believe one setback means they’ve failed. And I certainly don’t believe that everyone has to follow the same path to become successful. But I do believe that what you do after something goes wrong matters.
You can learn from it and you can make a new plan. You can take responsibility for your decisions and you can keep moving forward. That’s something teenagers, young adults, and even parents can learn together even though these might be hard conversations to have.
I have a question for you. Parents, how do you teach your teenagers to take responsibility without stepping in and doing everything for them? And young adults, have you ever had to change your plans because something didn’t work out the way you expected? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Because that’s what I want this Teen Entrepreneur series to be about: real-life lessons, practical ideas, family conversations, and helping our young people prepare for the future. Remember, when Plan A changes, it doesn’t mean your story is over. Sometimes that’s where a whole new chapter begins.
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Thank you,
Glenda, Charlie and David Cates
